A few week ago I posted an article in my mistakes women make series on first dates.
When it comes to dating, there is enough debate to fill a book on Amazon, which I guess is why people write books about the subject.
The problem is that most dating books are written by relationship counselors and psychologists who base all their dating advice on theory. Following their recommendations is one of the mistakes women make in navigating first dates.
Well, Hooker is the only coach you need.
Here are a few more tips on avoiding mistakes women often make on first dates.
This Is Not A Test
We know you have a list of qualities you want in a man and that you are going to be cross referencing pretty much everything we say against that list, but you might want to rethink that approach on first dates.
We are already under a lot of pressure. You see, every woman is different in what she needs, and we both know that those needs can change from day-to-day depending on your mood, so a first date is a great time for us to get to know you.
You might think this is exactly what YOU are doing, but it isn’t the same. We aren’t checking boxes in our minds about you.
We just want to know a few things:
- Are you sweet?
- Do our personalities mesh?
- Are we attracted to one another?
- Can we have good times together in the future?
The details will get worked out later.
First dates should not be a test. They should be like two friends spending an evening together without judgement or expectation.
- Exception: If he is rude, insulting, too forward, or a pig, you have my permission to lose his number and block his calls. Not doing so is a mistake women make for a future article.
Put Your Real Foot Forward
Both sexes have this problem, but it does no good for either of us to be something we’re not just to impress the other.
- Men may be more guilty of this than women because sometimes we’re not thinking passed getting you naked, but unfortunately these are waters you simply have to navigate.
If we are definitely both on the same page when it comes to the future, telling me you don’t care about things that actually do matter to you will only cause problems later.
- If you hate cigar smoke, don’t say you don’t mind it.
- If you hate gambling, don’t say it’s okay that I play cards every Wednesday.
- If you hate republicans, don’t say politics is no big deal to you.
- If you want kids one day, don’t say you’re undecided.
- If you are a devout Christian, don’t say you don’t care that I don’t go to church.
Things like this set us up for failure later on. At least if you know I’m a gambling, cigar smoking, conservative heathen that hates children, we can avoid heartbreak in the future.
First Dates Are No Big Deal
Give us time to learn about you before you lower the axe because we asked for a bite of your pasta or kissed your cheek when we met.
First dates shouldn’t be a big deal. If you leave your expectations at home, you might wind up having a fun night.
At the very least, you’ll avoid some mistakes women make and possibly open the door to a nice, satisfying relationship.
